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Monogamy is lame

June 20, 2010

I’m seeing four guys right now.

I used to be a serial monogamist. I went from single to being somebody’s girlfriend and back again.

It seemed like the thing to do at the time. I mean, I hardly had to think about weekend plans, and who doesn’t love regular, reliable sex?

But it was such a pain in the ass. The bickering, the compromises, the obligation, the lack of any personal space. Everything turned into a routine.

Since I’ve been in Phoenix — just a few years — I’ve been a just dating kind of girl.

Life has definitely gotten more fun.

For one thing, I realized that you can meet men anywhere. Of course at bars and shows and house parties, but really everywhere! On the train, sitting outside the office or school, out shopping.

Okay, yes, sometimes they’re creepy, but mostly they’re nice and respectful and flattering. I wind up trying new things because they invite me, or showing them around my side of town. I never know if I’m going to wind up at a punk show or a baseball game or an art gallery or a poetry reading.

And it’s fun to figure out the recurring themes. Some things are basically universal to straight men, and others I just go for again and again.

But the best part is what a huge confidence builder it’s been. I used to think only model-hot women could strut up to anybody and start a conversation. Now I do it all the time, and I have a blast doing it.

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